James Merriam

James Harold Merriam, 84 of Hamden, beloved and devoted husband of Betty Merriam for 61 years, passed away on June 27, 2010 at Yale New Haven Hospital.
He was born on September 17, 1925 and was raised in NY, NY. Jim enlisted in the United States Marine Corps shortly after his 18th birthday and served heroically in the Asiatic Pacific from 1944 to 1946. After marrying, Jim and Betty relocated to the New Haven area. Jim began a 30-year career with the CT Savings Bank, retiring as Asst VP. During retirement, he volunteered at Yale New Haven Hospital for many years. Jim loved scoring baseball games, watching events at Yale and playing tennis. He was also an avid reader, loved photography and enjoyed making note cards for people. Everyone who knew Jim appreciated his patience and sense of humor. Most of all, Jim loved his family. Besides his wife, he is survived by his daughter, Nancy Merriam Berney and husband Steve, his son George Merriam and wife Patty, grandchildren Scott Berney (Amy), Gregory Berney (Laura), Rebecca Merriam, and great-grandchildren Avery, Clara, Shane and Samuel Berney. He was predeceased by his grandson, Drew Merriam.

A funeral service will be held at the Weller Funeral Home, 493 Whitney Ave.,  New Haven Wednesday morning at ll. Interment at the State Veteran’s Cemetery will be private. Friends may visit the Merriam residence at 18 Shepard Hill Rd, Hamden Wednesday after 5pm and Thursday after 1pm. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made in Jim’s memory to the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation, 306 Industrial Park Road, Suite 107, Middletown, CT 06457.

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  1. Sandy Aiello & Stan Backiel said,

    06.28.10 at 1:02 pm

    Dear Betty:
    We are very sorry about the loss of Jim. He was a nice neighbor and will be sadly missed. As of all his famous photographs that he took and so graciously gave to his friends.
    Our sincerest sympathies go out to you and your family.

    Sandy Aiello
    Stan Backiel

  2. Gary Schark said,

    06.28.10 at 6:29 pm

    Dear Betty,

    You have my deepest sympathy for your loss of Jim. I am privileged to have known him as a friend and a fellow tennis player over these past years since he recovered from his earlier heart issues. He was one of the most kind and gentle men I have ever known. He always had a smile and displayed a positive attitude. I cannot remember him even once complaining over a line call in tennis! He was a most impressive artistic photographer. He shared with me a passion for baseball. I have never known anyone else who did such a fine job of scoring major league games and then getting scorecards signed. We will all miss him, though I am sure you will miss him most. He set a fine example for all of us who had the privilege of knowing him.

  3. mikki teddy & vera said,

    06.29.10 at 11:17 am

    Dear Nancy & Family

    love from my family to yours our deepest sympathy in the loss of your Dad I will remember him visiting you and he would always stop to talk to us he was a gental and sweet man GOD BLESS YOU ALL

  4. Beth Ruocco said,

    06.29.10 at 2:50 pm

    Dear Betty, Please accept my sympathy on the sudden and unexpected loss of Jim. Please extend my sympathy to your family. Beth Ruocco

  5. Grace & Pat Duffy said,

    06.29.10 at 6:25 pm

    We are saddened to hear of the loss of our dear friend, Jim. We always enjoyed seeing him at the Connectict Bank and children’s games. He was a kind and gentle man and we were privileged to have known him this many years. Our deepest sympathy goes out to you Betty, George, Nancy and your families.

  6. John & Connie Pinto said,

    06.29.10 at 6:32 pm

    Dear Betty,
    We were so shocked to hear of Jim’s passing. We will always remember his smile, his beautiful photography, his passion for tennis and baseball, and our fun dinner’s at Marie’s in Florida. We’re thinking of you, and in every way we wish you comfort and strength in the days and week ahead.
    our deepest sympathy to you and your family,
    John & Connie Pinto

  7. All and Irma Evans said,

    06.29.10 at 7:58 pm

    We were saddened to learn of Jim’s passing and want you to know our thoughts are with you. It was many years ago when it all started on Hemlock Rd. Please extend our sympathy to all of your family.

    Al and Irma Evans

  8. LOIS and JERRY JASON said,

    06.29.10 at 8:38 pm

    Jerry and I knew Jim from different “places.” For a short time I worked at CSB, then while working at Yale Med. School I would see him. We crossed paths for years; but in different directions,
    Then Jerry became part of THAT great Tennis group; Randall Beach wrote about them! Jim was always friendly and warm and most of all a gentle man.
    His involvement was always so genuine and careing. A man for all seasons.
    Such a dear man will be missed by all.

  9. Edna Urbanski said,

    06.30.10 at 11:44 am

    Dear Betty:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have thought of you both so many times and some how never got to see you for such a long time. Jim was always a perfect gentleman. I know you will miss him very much.

    Carolyn Vanacore sends her condolences, too.

    Edna Urbanski

  10. Frank Porto said,

    06.30.10 at 9:48 pm

    Sorry to hear about Jim’s passing. I will always remember him as a friend at CSB and later and a gentleman in the truest sense of the word.

    Frank Porto

  11. Fran and Alan Ponchick said,

    07.04.10 at 11:31 am

    Dear Betty, Nancy and George and families,

    We are shocked to hear of your beloved husband and father’s passing. We just found out about today. He was a wonderful man and an excellent example of an all around devoted husband, father, grandfather and great grandfather. Please accept our condolences and know that our thoughts are with you during this very difficult time.

    Alan and Fran Schaefer Ponchick, Adam, Andy Schwartzman and Evan

  12. bill zeidenberg said,

    07.26.10 at 9:24 am

    Betty, Nancy and George

    I am so sorry to hear of Jim’s passing. I was reviewing the Weller WebSite today (as my uncle Alan Postman died a few days ago) and was shocked to see this.

    I remember all my camp days with the Merriam’s.

    My condolences to you all.