Judith Perelmutter Spadola

Judith Spadola of 126 Bonniebrook Drive, Napa, CA, formerly of Woodbridge, CT died from complications from numerous medications used to try to treat 12 years of Fibromyalgia. Mrs. Spadola was born in New Haven, CT. Daughter of the late Attorney Joseph and Edith Perelmutter, she is survived by her loving husband Francis Spadola of Napa, a son Jeff Cleary and daughter-in-law Suzanne Passalacqua and two wonderful grandsons, Addison and Ben Cleary of Larkspur, CA. She was predeceased by a brother Joel Perelmutter.

After graduating from University of Virginia with a magna cum laude with a B.S. in English, she then went on to get her Masters from Wesleyan University. She led an active life as a teacher, athlete, and homemaker.  She taught English at Norwich Free Academy in Norwich, CT and at Amity Senior and Junior High Schools in Woodbridge, CT. She worked as an adjunct professor at Quinnipiac University in Hamden. She was an avid tennis player, runner, swimmer and golfer. She ran the New York Marathon as well as numerous 12 mile road races. Swimming indoors at the Yale Payne Whitney Gymnasium and outdoors at the Woodbridge Country Club, she often completed 100 mile in the pool. Proud of her hole-in-one at Woodbridge Country Club, she also enjoyed working on her golf game, being a member of the CWGA, walking 54 holes on her 54th. birthday and winning the husband and wife club championship, one year at Woodbridge Country Club and two years at Silverado Country Club in Napa. Her most rewarding times came from her teaching, tutoring and good relationships with her students. She established a scholarship fund for excellance in writing to be given to one student at Amity High School each year. Besides her teaching and athletics, Mrs. Spadola worked as a docent at the British Art Museum in New Haven, did free lance writing and was a copyright writer for an advertising agency. She was known for her sense of humor and curiosity. She was brave throughout her long years of suffering.


Funeral service, period of mourning and interment in the B’nai Jacob Memorial Park, Wintergreen Ave., New Haven will be private.

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  1. Debbie Farber said,

    01.31.12 at 2:43 pm

    I worked with Judy when she was at the Junior High in Orange. I remember how she always practiced running and loved English.
    My condolences to you and your family.
    Debbie Farber
    Special Education, Amity, retired

  2. Carol Rosen said,

    01.31.12 at 2:52 pm

    I want to extend my sincere condolences to you and to your family.
    Carol Rosen

  3. Pam Feinberg said,

    01.31.12 at 3:46 pm

    I have fond memories of regular chats with Judy at the JCC in Woodbridge, where she was my role model for diligently pushing herself in the gym each day.
    I remember once receiving a concerned phone call from her when she realized that she had not seen me at the gym in a while…. She was a lovely, talented and caring person.
    My condolences to you and your family on your sad and untimely loss.
    Pam Feinberg

  4. Gerri Frankel said,

    01.31.12 at 4:00 pm

    Dear Fran,

    I am shocked and saddened to read of your loss. Judy was always so vibrant, even in pain, that I never imagined that the illness would be her undoing. I remember clearly our trip to Palm Beach and the many ways that she improved my wardrobe and my satorial presentation! I send my wishes for healing to you and Jeffrey and family. I enjoyed reading about your life in California and your continuing pursuit of sports and culture. I am sorry that you have lost your true soulmate.

  5. Kathleen Coords said,

    01.31.12 at 4:20 pm

    Please accept my condolences on your loss. Judy was an active, vibrant person and will be missed. Take care of yourself!

  6. Steve& Linda Meisel said,

    01.31.12 at 5:07 pm

    Fran: We were shocked and saddened to hear about Judy. We have many fond memories of her.. the tennis W.C.C. days, and above all her wonderful help to our daughters at Amity. Our deepest condoloences to you and Jeff. Linda& Steve Meisel

  7. Carole and Harold Greenbaum said,

    01.31.12 at 5:55 pm

    Fran:Unbelievable and truly saddening to hear of your loss The first thing Judy and we shared was the architect who designed her parents home in Westville and our home in Woodbridge. After our first meeting we enjoyed talking, tennis, and laughing over kids and situations. The generation gap never mattered. We know how happy her family life was with you and Jeff. Our condolences to you all.
    Carole and Harold

  8. Andrea Meisel Vincent said,

    01.31.12 at 7:52 pm

    Fran and Jeff:
    I was so saddened to hear of the loss of Judy. She was very kind to me, and a great mentor. I will always have fond memories of her. She was my favorite teacher in high school, and really inspired me to write creatively and do my best!
    My thoughts are with you.
    Andrea Meisel

  9. Maddy and John Baer said,

    01.31.12 at 10:17 pm

    Fran and Jeff,
    We are so shocked and so so sorry. We have missed all of the family ever since everyone went to California. However, we always thought that we would see at least Judy and Fran in Palm Beach again. I was hoping that it might be this winter.
    Jeff and Fran please accept our condolences. Judy was a big part of our lives and we will not forget all the many happy times we spent together.
    John and Maddy

  10. Andy Testa said,

    01.31.12 at 11:14 pm

    What a schock to hear of the passing of Judy. I had just received a call from her two weeks ago. I have fond memories and am deeply saddened. My condolences to you and the family.

  11. JoAnn Timpampanelli-Lanziero said,

    02.01.12 at 8:21 am

    Judi was such a good friend to me. All those years of being her freind and hairdresser. Anthony and I our so very sorry for your loss. Our deepest condolences to you and your family. Anthony and Joann

  12. Ellie Comen said,

    02.01.12 at 9:34 am

    Fran and Jeff,
    We are so sorry to hear of your tremendous loss – Judy was a wonderful woman. Her teaching skills were above and beyond – she reached out to so many at Amity High School and taught them to love books, our own daughter being one of the lucky ones to have had her as a teacher. Our times on the golf course were memorable-she loved being out there and inspired others to feel the same way.
    Our sincere condolences to you and the rest of your family – she will be missed.

  13. Thomas Betts said,

    02.01.12 at 1:28 pm

    To Fran and Jeff,
    I always enjoyed working with Judi at Amity and I am so sorry to hear she is gone. Please know I have very good memories of her and I extend to you both my heartfelt sympathies.

    Tom Betts

  14. Lynne Drazen said,

    02.01.12 at 1:30 pm

    Dear Jeffrey and Family,
    I was so saddened to hear of your tremendous loss. Your mom was the most wonderful teacher to my daughter and Jen loved her. Your mom and I shared some wonderful conversations when you and Jen were growing up, either at the WCC pool or the parties you attended while your mom and I went off in a corner to talk! We would have our best conversations on the spur of the moment when we were shopping in Stop and Shop. I remember so well when your mom became ill but she persevered through the pain, fatigue and sometimes inbalance as it was the same time my mom also became ill with these same questionable symptoms. I’m so sorry that she had so many years of disease that sapped the young beautiful woman she was. My heartfelt thoughts are with you and her husband and family and know she will be so terribly missed. May she rest in peace.
    Lynne Drazen

  15. Sharon Patterson Magill said,

    02.01.12 at 3:44 pm

    Dear Fran and Jeffrey,
    I am so sorry to learn of the toll that Judy’s health problems took. What a sad, sad loss. I hope that both of you can find some comfort in the knowledge that those of us who knew Judy not only as a valued colleague but, more important, as a good friend share in your grief. May your lasting memories be of better times, of Judy’s vivacity, her sharp and ready wit, her many talents, and, above all, her love for you both.
    Sharon Patterson Magill

  16. Honorine Wallack said,

    02.01.12 at 4:23 pm

    Fran and Jeff, my mother just called me with the sad news. Judy was incredible. The obituary was so well written. She really was a jock,doing those numerous loops around the Woodbridge Club and swimming all those laps in the pool . We would be tired looking at her when we were lifeguarding.

    I loved your Mom Jeff she taught so many of us so many things, and she always was fun. I am sure that as I write this she is correcting my sentence structure and wording.

    So sorry again to you both.

  17. Delores Lee Conner said,

    02.01.12 at 8:47 pm

    Dear Fran and Jeff: I was shock to hear about Judy. I knew her all my life. My mother Thelma Lee was the housekeeper for the Perelmutter’s. Judy was a giving, loving; and kind person to my entire family. My son was tutor by Judy, the best; and he has his Phd. I will always remember Judy.
    Sincerely, Delores Lee Conner
    (Thelma Lee’s Daughter)

  18. Suzanne Saletan said,

    02.02.12 at 1:35 pm

    So sorry to hear of Judy’s passing. I have many fond memories of playing golf with her at Woodbridge Country Club. Her passion for golf as well as other things in her life was to be commended..Judy never did anything half way..gave it her all..I was really saddened to learn of her long bout with her disease..May you find comfort in fond memories..It never gets better ( as I know) it just softens with time.
    Suzanne Saletan

  19. Jacqueline Koral said,

    02.02.12 at 3:29 pm

    Judy and I spent many happy years as clode and loving friends before she moved to California to be near Jeff, his wife and his sons who meant so much to her. Her loss is a profound one for me for all of us who knew and loved her through good times and bad.
    Judy was a great best friend, always ready for any adventure; a superb teacher, athlete and great role model for women. There wasn’t anything she couldn’t tackle. She had a sharp wit and sense of fun and a great love of life. When she met Fran, she blossomed and couldn’t wait to introduce him to me.
    Judy was brave and fearless – her illness took a great toll on her body and spirit but despite all of this, she did her best to lead the life she most enjoyed with Fran. She and my husband Kurt had a close bond and were able to share their adversities and strategies to outwit the pain they both experienced. He loved her as much as I do.
    Go in peace, my dear friend. I carry you in my heart and always will.

    Jackie Koral

  20. Linda blackwood said,

    02.03.12 at 8:11 am

    Fran and Jeffrey

    I’m sorry to hear about the passing of Judy. Judy was a great person and I enjoyed her company at Amity. We always did the Jumble puzzle together and would laugh when one of us beat the other. Fran take care and be strong.
    Linda Blackwood

  21. Micki Kleeman said,

    02.04.12 at 12:23 pm

    Being a latecomer to the Woodbridge area, my contact with Judy was at the Woodbridge Country Club, where I enjoyed playing golf with her. I admired her concentration and dedication to the game and the excellent results she accomplished. I also saw the ease she had with young people and how they responded to her. It was no surprise that she was a popular teacher. Sadly, I also saw what was at first a mysterious disease, take over her life, and how she tried to carry on. She bravely had to fight the disease and the public perception of it. I am truly saddened that she has lost the battle. My deepest sympathy goes to Fran and her son Jeff and family. May she rest in peace.

    Micki Kleeman

  22. Linsley Barbato said,

    02.04.12 at 12:33 pm

    I had the pleasure of teaching with Judy at Amity High for several years. She was a gifted and tireless teacher and a wonderful colleague and friend. My heart breaks for Fran and Jeffrey. I hope your love for each other and the children will ease your pain. You have my sincere condolences.

    LInsley Barbato

  23. A. Jackson said,

    02.09.12 at 10:09 am

    Truly sorry for your loss. A few word offer peace during difficult times, perhaps the word expressed expressed at Revelation 21:3,4 provide you with both comfort and hope along with the realization that soon tragdies such as this will one day be a thing of the past. One day soon will can see our loved ones again.
    (John 5:28,29)