Jeffrey Malcolm Postman

  Jeffrey Malcolm Postman died July 15, 2012. Devoted and loving partner of 20 years to Bruce ZuWalick.  Loving son of the late Grace (Zeidenberg) and Alan Stuart Postman.  Loving grandson of the late Marion Kupperstein and Benjamin Franklin Postman.  Adoring cousin of Sherry (Larry) Shanbrom, and Billy (Karen) Zeidenberg.  Special friend of Joan Hinchcliffe, Philip Stull, and Judith N. Madeux. Also survived by a sister, brother, and nephew. Jeffrey was a 1971 graduate of West Haven High School and served as co-captain of the 1971 Boy’s Swimming Team.  Jeffrey graduated from Wittenberg University in 1975 with a degree in Education.  He served as captain of the 1975 Wittenberg Men’s Swimming Team.  In 1978, Jeffrey earned his MBA at the University of New Haven. Jeffrey worked for SNET/ATT for over 33 years before his recent retirement. Jeff’s life’s passions included long distance swimming and photography.  He was also an avid sailor, biker, hiker, and camper. Jeff would like to thank his FRamily (Friends who are family) who provided a constant source of comfort and support to Bruce and him.  Jeff believed that these people are the holiest of holy because they knew how to give back through their phone calls, visits, emails and prayers.
   Funeral service will be on Wednesday 11:am at Congregation Mishkan Israel, 785 Ridge Road, Hamden, CT.  As per Jeff’s wishes, the interment in the Mishkan Israel Cemetery will be private.  The period of mourning will be private.  In lieu of flowers, donations in memory of Jeffrey Postman can be made to the Jeffrey M. Postman Diversity Fund c/o ADL, 1952 Whitney Avenue, Hamden, CT 06517, ATTN: Victor Levitt and/or to Ct. Hospice at 100 Double Beach Road, Branford, CT. 06405.
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  1. Dave Zimkowski said,

    07.16.12 at 12:39 am

    Dear Bruce and the loving family and friends of Jeffrey,
    Although separated by years and many miles, you and Jeff have been near to me in my heart, especially through these past few months. Your unwavering devotion to Jeff surely gave him immense strength through this struggle. May you take comfort in the memories of a beautiful life together and all that you meant to Jeff in his final days.
    Peace and love,

  2. Celeste Champion said,

    07.16.12 at 12:44 am

    Jeff (Bernard) was the kindness, sweetest, most compassionate person I knew. He was truly a person, once in your life, you will never forget him. He made us all better people after experiencing his humor, respect, and joy for life.

  3. Judith N Madeux said,

    07.16.12 at 1:58 am

    Jeffrey, was my mitzvah; a true believer and contributor to all that is good in all of us. It is beyond wonderful that he and Bruce had 20 years of a respectful, playful. devoted and loving relationship…I sincerely love them both.

    Knowing Jeffrey’s respect for diversity and the spirituality common to all; I leave these excerpts from “on the white ashes”, a Buddhist writing on the oneness and impermanence of all things.

    ” In silently contemplating the transient nature of human existence, nothing is more fragile and fleeting in this world than the life of man……Those who leave before us are as countless as the drops of dew…..When the winds of impermanence blow, our eyes are closed forever…By so understanding the meaning of death, we shall come to fully appreciate the meaning of this life which is unrepeatable and thus to be treasured above all else.”

    Jeffrey, journey on, my friend. I am richer because of you and will miss your beautiful presence in my life.

  4. Margy & Robert ZuWallack said,

    07.16.12 at 2:31 am

    So sorry for your loss. Jeffrey was a very kind and thoughtful person.It was a pleasure to have met him. Even though we are miles away, our thoughts and prayers are with you.
    Love, Robert, Margy and family

  5. Walter & Jack said,

    07.16.12 at 11:58 am

    Never have we seen a couple more devoted to one another and more loving with one another. Jeff and Bruce will never be truly separated. Most likely Jeff is still worrying about Bruce from on high. Jeff had a degree of tolerance and understanding and compassion for all of God’s creation that is perhaps his best legacy. If only the world were full of more human beings like Jeff. We wonder what cross word puzzles he will work on now!

  6. Nancy and George Bailey said,

    07.16.12 at 12:01 pm

    Jeff was one of those unique individuals who made me feel special every time he spoke with, or emailed, me. During his years with AT&T we seldom even worked in the same building, yet somehow there would be a reason for getting in touch, and it always warmed me.
    More recently George and I met Bruce and could truly appreciate what a beautiful relationship he had with Jeff. They lived and loved what each new day could bring.
    Bruce, we are indeed FRamily, and hold you in our prayers.
    Love, George and Nancy

  7. Christine Bailey said,

    07.16.12 at 1:06 pm

    As I begin to write this I am overwhelmed with little snippets of memories of Jeff through the years. I have never met a kinder, more compassionate, caring person in my life – and what a sense of humor. I had the supreme honor of meeting Jeff when he and I worked at Long Wharf. When I moved to another location and we no longer saw each other or had the need to speak frequently, Jeff seemed to have the uncanny ability to sense when I was down and suddenly a phone call or “Q” message would pop up from him bringing a smile to my face. He would look every day to see my quote of the day and send funny comments or send information on the author of the quote. He was brilliant. Jeff, in memory of you, a final “Q” quote: .Life is eternal; and love is immortal; and death is only a horizon; and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight. ~ Rossiter W. Raymond

    Love, Christine Bailey

  8. Debbie Proto said,

    07.16.12 at 1:15 pm

    Bruce, even though we have never met, I can only imagine that you are a reflection of Jeff, his generous spirit, his gentleness and his beliefs. All of the kind words that people have written are so fitting and I hope that they help to fill the void in the absence of his physical presence.

    Take the time to reflect on all of the wonderful memories of your life with Jeff. Always know, both of you will remain in all of prayers and our thoughts.

  9. Claire Newman said,

    07.16.12 at 1:32 pm

    You will always be remembered by your loved ones–as you call them, your framily!

  10. Barbara Cran said,

    07.16.12 at 1:51 pm

    Bruce – Jeff was a true friend to all that knew him. He was kind, compassionate, funny and loving. I have been truly blessed to have known him for over 40 years – from high school to SNET and reunions. My heart is so heavy with saddness that I will not be hearing from my dear friend – Jeff from 06516 until we meet again in that better place.

    My love to you and all of Jeff’s FRamily. Barbara Hentz Cran

  11. Sharon Baranowski said,

    07.16.12 at 1:57 pm

    I am so sorry to hear of Jeff’s passing. Jeff was such a special man with a beautiful soul. He always had a smile on his face. Just being around him would brighten my day. It was a privilege to have known Jeff. My condolences to Bruce and his friends/family.

  12. Frances Cappelli said,

    07.16.12 at 2:21 pm

    Even though I never met you and have not seen Jeff in years, I feel so compelled to write.
    I first met Jeff when we both worked for SNET and took the West Haven to New Haven bus to work every morning in the very early ’80’s. His friendly mannner and open personality quickly started us talking during the ride. I was pregnant with my frist daughter, Kimberly, and Jeff was so sweet about how I was doing and how I felt etc. Later, I kept Jeff hysterically laughing with the stories of Kim’s childhood antics. He never forgot those stories and whenever we would see each other at work, he would always ask “And how is Kim doing?” which a twinkle in his eye that very quickly morphed into laughter meaning ” Do I dare ask?”
    Jeff came to my house in West Haven several times to go bike riding with my now ex-husband.
    He was such a delight. You could not know him and not love hiim. He was so very, very special, as I am sure you are too, Bruce. You would have to be.
    Please accept my deepest sympathy and constant prayers. Hold tightly to the good memories. May they always warm your heart, bring you joy and give you peace.
    Sincerely, Fran Cappelli

  13. MaryAnne Combelic said,

    07.16.12 at 2:26 pm

    I met Jeff close to 30 years ago when we both worked in the old George Street offices at SNET. In all that time he remained one of the sunniest, most upbeat, and charming people I have ever known. He always knew the right thing to say to make a grey day brighter. My life is better for having known Jeff. I am having a tough time imagining a world without this wonderful man and I will miss him terribly. My condolences to all who loved him.

  14. Lorraine DellaValle said,

    07.16.12 at 2:49 pm

    I just don’t know where to start on saying how I will miss Jeff. He is the most kindest, caring man I ever met. It was never about him always the other person and anyone who knew him loved him. I was so blessed to have his friendship and I know he’s in a better place. My heart goes out to Bruce who is just as wonderful and who Jeff adored. My thoughts and prayers will always be with you!

  15. Marvin Brown said,

    07.16.12 at 2:59 pm

    Dear Bruce:

    Please accept my heart-felt condolences for the loss of your loved one. I have such fond memories of working with Jeff at SNET Headquarters. He always wore a smile, and spoke in such a positive manner, even during times of adversity. His soul was pure; he was a very genuine individual. Although he has left this earth, he has graced us with a spirit that will be long remembered. It is seldom in life that we have the pleasure of meeting someone who leaves such a positive and lasting impact, Jeff was such an individual. I hope you find solace in the fact that our Lord blessed the two of you with 20 years of love and devotion. Although we have never met, I cry for you loss. May you carry his memory in your heart this day and always.

  16. Laura Lupoli said,

    07.16.12 at 3:05 pm

    My condolences to Jeff and his family. Jeff was a sweet, caring, polite and gentle human being and it was always a pleasure to talk with him, whether for business or just by chance. Even if you hadn’t seen or talked with him in years, when you finally did, it was like you had been in contact all the while. Rest in Peace, Jeff.
    Laura Lupoli

  17. Debbie Carboni said,

    07.16.12 at 3:10 pm

    Jeff saw the good in everyone, and brought out the best in all of us.
    Condolances and special prayers to his family.

  18. Donna Palmieri said,

    07.16.12 at 3:18 pm

    Jeff was truly was one of the kindest, most thoughtful people I’ve ever known. We worked together at SNET/SBC/AT&T, and developed a close friendship when we both lost our moms in the same year. Without fail, every year on the anniversary of my mom’s passing, I received a compassionate note from Jeff. He always seemed to know the exact right thing to say. I loved unexpectedly running into him in the hallways at Long Wharf or receiving emails throughout the year from him with words of encouragement. A conversation with Jeff always brightened my day, even if it was just a quick hello. He was so full of life! Jeff has made me a better person, and I am heartbroken over his passing. I always thought of him as an angel when he was with us, so I am certain he is watching down on all of us with his big smile. Bruce, my deepest sympathies go out to you. Jeff was an incredibly special person, and the lives he touched are countless.

  19. Jack Lugli said,

    07.16.12 at 4:31 pm

    Jeff and I worked together on a couple of short term projects here at ATT and really got to know each other at a business level. We had a lot in common when it comes to work ethics and really cared about our job, people we work with, and what we do with our time on this earth. Although we really never spoke outside of work, what we did while here at ATT can sometimes reflect how one interacts with people outside the office. I am sorry I did not get the opportunity to work with him again this year and my heart goes out to all who loved Jeff. Rest in peace my friend.

  20. Sandy Billingsley said,

    07.16.12 at 5:38 pm

    Jeff and I both worked for ATT. When BellSouth and ATT combined, he was always the go to person. He was very kind and helpful. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. He will truly be missed.

  21. Margie Couture said,

    07.16.12 at 5:59 pm

    Dear Bruce, and the Postman family
    My thoughts, and prayers are with you at this difficult time. Jeff was a ray of sunshine in all the lives he touched along the way. In all the years I knew him at the phone company he never showed anger toward anyone. May the years you had together, and the memories you made help you go on.

  22. Jeanne Warner said,

    07.16.12 at 6:00 pm

    Bruce – there are no words except to say how sorry I am you (and all of his framily) have lost such a wonderful, kind, caring, compassionate man. Jeff was always there for countless friends in their time of need and beyond. My life has been richer and more reflective because he was my friend and his example of how we should all treat each other. Nothing was ever about him – it was always about the other person. He had a kind word for everyone and always found the best in everyone, He never let anything negative into his thoughts or vocabulary or allow negativity to change his attitude or personality – he rose above it. We should all learn from his goodness and generosity of spirit. We all know Jeff’s sense of humor and to see him during the last 7 months – never letting his illness get in the way of his sense of humor was something only he could do with his loving partner by his side. Bruce and Jeff’s constant caring of each other and the love they shared is so special they gave many others hope that everyone could experience this kind of loving relationship. Bruce we are all here for you when you need us, we love you. My dear friend, Jeff will always be in my heart – and memories of us laughing about something will always lift up my days. I love you Jeff. I love you Bruce and thank you for being that wonderful, special person in Jeff’s life.

  23. O'Shea Framily said,

    07.16.12 at 7:07 pm

    Dear Bruce and the Postman Family,

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. We wish we could be there to lend our support during the days ahead. We were humbled to be considered Framily. Take care of yourself Bruce. Love Barbara, Robert, Marine & Carolyn

  24. Richard Silverman said,

    07.16.12 at 8:01 pm

    Jeff, I will miss you……………

  25. Chris Barrett said,

    07.16.12 at 8:37 pm

    The joy, cheer and sense of purpose Jeff brought to work every day was obviously an overflow of the love and happiness in his personal life. So fortunate for us to have known him.

  26. Dale David said,

    07.16.12 at 9:03 pm

    Dear Bruce,

    To never again answer the phone to hear a joke or… “this is Jeff Postman, West Haven, CT 06516” and to never again see that smiling face makes me deeply sad. I am grateful to have had such a wonderful person in my life for more than 45 years and I will carry his memory in my heart and mind forever.

  27. Phil Stull and Joan Hinchcliffe said,

    07.16.12 at 11:16 pm

    A ray of sunshine came and went
    A beautiful treasure only lent,
    In God’s keeping quietly sleeps,
    This friend we loved but could not

    Jeffrey, our special friend, journey on. You will always be in our hearts.

  28. Christine Cain said,

    07.17.12 at 12:24 am


    My sincere condolences on your loss. Jeff was such a wonderful person. My heart is heavy today, I can only imagine what you’re going through. All of the above posts eloquently express my exact thoughts. Simply put, it truly has been a privilege and a pleasure to have known him. God certainly must have needed another angel. My thoughts are with you during this extremely difficult time.

  29. Ronny and Karen Matz said,

    07.17.12 at 1:09 am

    Have known Jeffrey since first grade. Always there with a thoughtful word and a sick joke to make you smile. Remember how he lit up when he spoke of you, Bruce, and how proud he was of you. How lucky he was to have you in his life! So very thoughtful, always remembering birthdays and yahrzeits alike.
    Fond memories of hitchhiking to Wittenberg to see Jeff swim and having him pick me up, on the road by accident, 10 miles away from campus. Watching Jeff swim with Grace and Alan, and seeing him (as only Grace could say) ‘shoot off the starting block like a Fleet enema’. Fond childhood memories. We lost a dear sweet friend.
    Will miss him greatly….

  30. thomas kearney said,

    07.17.12 at 11:54 am

    Dear Bruce: Our prayers and thoughts are with you. Anthony and I speak of you often, remembering many happy and laugh filled days and events. Please know that Jeff will be in my Masses and prayers. I know that your many friends and family will be your continuing support. Tom Kearney

  31. Pauline Leary said,

    07.17.12 at 12:20 pm

    Bruce –

    My condolences to you.
    I am truly saddened and with a heavy heart by Jeff’s passing. I certainly will miss him.

    I had the honor and privilege of working with Jeff at SNET. I loved our short chats and catching up on news. He always had a smile and a good word at the end of our many conversations.

    I would run into Jeff at Stop & Shop in Madison and we would pick up a conversation as though there was never a lapse in time.
    Jeff will always hold a special place in my heart.
    Rest in Peace my friend.

  32. Carla Bailey said,

    07.17.12 at 12:22 pm

    Jeff was such a bright light and I had the joy of working with him at SNET/SBC/ATT on and off through the years. No matter how many years had passed since we last spoke he would see me in the hall and say ‘Hey 06477’ how’ve you been? He just loved quoting those zip codes-it still brings a smile to my face.
    My deepest, and most sincere condolences to his entire Family and Framily on his passing. He will remain alive in the memories of all those he encountered.
    I heard he moved in more recent years but for me he’ll always be 06516. Goodbye, until we meet again.

  33. Michael and Susanne Pimer said,

    07.17.12 at 1:12 pm

    Our Deepest sympathy to Jeff,s family we remember how much he enjoyed swimming Our condolences
    from the entire Pimer Family

  34. Mary Ann Breininger said,

    07.17.12 at 1:27 pm

    Of all the people I had ever dealt with at SNET/SBC/AT&T Jeff was always just a a phone call away. He would always have an answer, or would get me one! He was so kind, polite and just a very good human being. The world would be such a better place if we had more people like Jeff in it. Rest in Peace Jeffery.

    Mary Ann Breininger

  35. Bill Massa said,

    07.17.12 at 1:28 pm

    I am not sure if anything new can be said after reading all of the previous heart-warming tributes. I met Jeff about twenty years ago when Bruce first introduced him to a group of friends at a New Haven restaurant on Grove Street near State Street. Later on there was the “Hello, is this Bill from 06514” when I hardly remembered my own Hamden zip code; his comment that my Belgian brisket tasted and smelled like the one his grandmother made, etc.

    My dear friend Bruce, you and Jeff had a relationship that had to make most people envious because of your deep devotion to each other. To the very end, you provided selfless care for him. You and we know he would have done the same for you.

    May we all keep the memories of Jeff in our hearts and mind.

  36. Jack and Sissie Kuczaj said,

    07.17.12 at 1:44 pm

    Our heartfelt wishes go out to you, Bruce and to family and friends of Jeff. He was the best at bringing out the best in others – he brought us joy and his unending “puns” in our meetings. Jeff will be sorely missed on this earth, but is in a far better place.

    God Bless and keep us all

  37. Frank and Arline McCarthy said,

    07.17.12 at 1:53 pm

    Bruce, we are so sorry for your loss. We will really miss him!

  38. Jane Brown said,

    07.17.12 at 1:58 pm

    Dear Bruce and family,

    I am so very sorry to hear of Jeff’s passing. I worked with Jeff at AT&T and he was ALWAYS a GENTLE MAN and for that he was loved. He always took the time to inquire about myself and my family. His line to me all the time when we’d pass each other in the Long Warf hallway was “hi Jane how’s business?” with his bright smile.
    Bruce my heart goes out to you but, always cherish your fond memories and he will always be with you. The world will surely miss Jeff Postman.

    My deepest sympathy to you and your families.

  39. Ursula DeMartino said,

    07.17.12 at 2:32 pm

    To his immediate family and significant others,
    I have never known a finer individual than Jeff. He was a
    compassionate, gentle individual. I worked with him many
    years ago and have never forgotten him. He was an intelligent
    and dedicated person. He always tried to please everyone and
    never put himself first. He was humble and very honest. He was such a dear person and only had positive remarks about
    everyone. I feel fortunate to have known him and truly feel
    sorry for all of us. He certainly left a positive mark on so many people, just by being himself.
    I pray that he is truly at peace.
    Ursula DeMartino

  40. Ursula DeMartino said,

    07.17.12 at 2:32 pm

    To his immediate family and significant others,
    I have never known a finer individual than Jeff. He was a
    compassionate, gentle individual. I worked with him many
    years ago and have never forgotten him. He was an intelligent
    and dedicated person. He always tried to please everyone and
    never put himself first. He was humble and very honest. He was such a dear person and only had positive remarks about
    everyone. I feel fortunate to have known him and truly feel
    sorry for all of us. He certainly left a positive mark on so many people, just by being himself.
    I pray that he is truly at peace.
    Ursula DeMartino

  41. Renee Bacote said,

    07.17.12 at 2:33 pm

    I was so saddened when I read of Jeff’s passing. I knew Jeff for over 40 yrs. How we would laugh when I would come over to the house to sit in the sun with his sister. What a great guy! He was truly a caring person. My thoughts and prayers go out to everyone.

  42. Sandra Mastroianni said,

    07.17.12 at 2:47 pm

    Dear Bruce,
    May you find comfort in your memories of your life together with Jeff.
    He was an extraordinary person. He was kind and always a gentleman.
    His compassion for life and kindness were only 2 of his characteristics. He embraced all of us for who we are. If he saw sadness, he fixed it. If he heard laughter, he joined in and made us laugh harder. He also told great stories.
    I can not imagine my world without Jeff as he was the best. Kind, tolerant, gentle and loving. This is a sad time.
    As we all hurt inside for our loss, I can not imagine what you and the Postman family are going through. You have been blessed with a loving relationship.
    He will always be fondly remembered by me and my husband who got to know Jeff through his photography. He is in my heart and God bless you.

  43. Maryse Petit-Homme said,

    07.17.12 at 3:41 pm

    Bruce and Family,

    I am really sorry about Jeff’s passing. He was always very nice and caring. It was always a pleasure to see him or work with him. I feel blessed to have known him.

  44. Susan Walker said,

    07.17.12 at 3:47 pm


    Very rarely in life does someone come along who affects everyone in a positive way. That was Jeff – he brought sunshine and warmth where ever he went. Always a kind word, a silly joke, a caring thought. The pain that those of us in his framily feel is nothing compared to yours. You brought joy and happiness to our friend and for that we will be always grateful.
    There is a quote from the play Camelot that I have used before but applies to Jeff most of all – He is “one of what we all are. Less than a drop in the great blue motion of the sunlit sea. But it seems that some of drops sparkle. Some of them so sparkle”.
    Goodbye, Jeffrey, my sweet dear friend – you certainly did sparkle!

  45. Char Morgal & Janis Garguilo said,

    07.17.12 at 4:40 pm

    Dear Susan, Bruce and Family,
    Remembering Jeff from years ago, as a funny, kind hearted spirt. You are in our thoughts and prayers, during this very difficult time.
    Charlene Morgal
    Janis Garguilo

  46. Kathi Falko said,

    07.17.12 at 5:44 pm

    Bruce – my heartfelt sympathy for you and the “Framily”. Jeff was so blessed to have a wonderful caring man in his life to see him through this journey. Jeff was always so caring and pleasant to me and everyone around him. I know he gave so much to others all the time. He put everyone else first – and was one of the kindest gentleman I ever met. We will truly miss him and remember him with warm thoughts and prayers.

  47. CLIFF MASCIA said,

    07.17.12 at 6:37 pm

    Dear Bruce with heartfelt sorrow we are very saddened to hear of jeffs passing ,although I have known him for a very long time we follow different roads in our lives ,at times the roads intersect and others ,well they just seem to keep missing the intersections ,that never means that the two friends do not ever stop thinking of one another in their moments of rest.He was a wonderful man and a gentle soul with wit to make you laugh to tears, We just want you to know that the both of you will be in our prayers as he follows the road that will come naturally to him .His suffering has passed ,but that never makes it any easier for the loved ones left behind .be well bruce , he will live in your heart forever .

  48. Norma Lee Chartoff said,

    07.17.12 at 6:46 pm

    Dear Bruce and Framily,
    I was lucky enough to have known Jeff since we were in 6th grade together. Jeff was always the one to look to if you wanted to laugh — I never remember him not smiling. Jeff’s clever (but often corny) wit we all loved, and he always made everyone feel comfortable. I actually still remember many little jokes that he had made in class in junior high school, and my mom remembers me telling her them when I got home from school. We still, to this day (she is 88 now) can recall “oh, yes, remember when Jeff said:…….” Hopefully his gift of smiling can return to you, Bruce, some sense of peace. Love, Norma Lee Chartoff and Chip Scott

  49. Christine Batts said,

    07.17.12 at 7:16 pm

    To Bruce and The Postman Family,

    I’ve known Jeff for almost 15 yrs (AT&T) and not one day went by when he didn’t have a smile or a kind word to say! He would always leave me with a one-liner joke that only Jeff could pull off. Especially about being bald. My son never visited the ofc without stopping to see Jeff, what a sweet Spirit…I will smile each time I think of him now & always. My heart is heavy and I will keep you all in my prayers. Heaven truly has another Angel. Jeff, I will miss you
    Christine & Stephan

  50. Pat Mezzi said,

    07.17.12 at 8:32 pm

    Jeff was a hero to so many people in so many ways. He always offered to help with any task and often just did “it”. But he will be missed for who he was not what he did. His kindness, great sense of humor – loved his corny jokes, his smile and just his way of making your day brighter.

  51. Sascha, Jeanyi and Miranda said,

    07.17.12 at 9:39 pm

    We miss Jeff terribly already, and are heartbroken at his passing. Jeff was a kind, sweet and pure human being, who had a way of endearing anyone with his innocent and gentle ways, and sense of humor.

    We feel honored and humbled to be part of his and Bruce and Jeff’s “FRamily”. God may have summoned Jeff to his side of the universe, but we are the keepers of Jeff’s spirit and memories, for Jeff also had a touch for making us better people and the world a better place. Even while fighting for his life, he remained lighthearted, giving and caring.

    Bruce, we mourn with you! The bond between you and Jeff is eternal and unbreakable. The caring devotion to one another, and above all, unconditional and unquestionable love you shared will live on forever.

    We are sure that Jeff’s smile and breath will forever fill Whisper’s sails and brighten the ocean, and continue to fill everyone’s hearts with joy and great memories.

    Jeff, we hope that you are now enjoying the best chicken parm (second to Bruce’s) and all the hot dogs you want!

    May you rest in peace and comfort. t’hay nafsho tzrurah b’tzror hachaim

    We love you;

    Sascha, Jeanyi and Miranda Mandl

  52. Phyllis Cohen said,

    07.17.12 at 10:19 pm

    Dear Bruce and Family:

    There are no words that can express what has been lost. I thank you for loving Jeff and being the partner he deserved. He was truly a great guy, who always put others before himself.

    Phyllis Cohen

  53. Jan Lippens said,

    07.17.12 at 10:27 pm

    To all of Jeff’s loved ones,

    I will never forget his friendship and kindness. We talked many times about my sister’s illness with cancer. He would walk up to me and ask how is Linda doing. He didn’t even know her, but he always showed such compassion. He knew she had the same illlness as Dr. Mel from WTNH, and he got her in touch with him to share some thoughts about their illness. When my grand-daughter was born, he bought her a gift, when I retired from SNET he bought me flowers. He wished happiness for everyone. I want to wish everyone who loved Jeff my heartfelt sympathy.
    Jan Lippens

  54. Roberta Vitti said,

    07.17.12 at 10:37 pm

    Dear Bruce,

    I worked with Jeff at Long Wharf; he was one of the kindest people I have ever met. When my dad was ill, Jeff would stop by my desk every single day to see how he was doing and to also make sure I was OK! He always had a smile and kind word. His friendship is something that I will always treasure!

  55. Patti Villano Clarke said,

    07.17.12 at 10:51 pm

    I was profoundly saddened to hear of Jeff’s passing. There really are no words sufficient…he was a kind, sweet, “happy puppy” of a man…truly one in a million. I still sit here in disbelief. I treasure my last picture of him as we danced together at “his” WHHS reunion last year.
    My heartfelt condolences to Bruce and all dear to him.

  56. Anne Granfield said,

    07.17.12 at 11:50 pm

    Dear Bruce,
    I wanted to let you know how sad I was to learn of Jeff’s passing. Jeff and I first became friends through my high school swim team. He was always encouraging and supportive, and never without a smile.

    Throughout the years, we would run into each other in town and we shared a few correspondences, which I will always treasure. Jeff was always kind, funny and I am honored to have known him. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

    Kind regards,
    Anne Cassell Granfield

  57. Thomas Smith said,

    07.18.12 at 2:36 am

    Jeff was one of the kindest people I have ever known. My wife had a heart transplant and Jeff would stop by my desk to see how she was doing. While at my desk he would check to see if I had added any new photos of my daughter. He always asked how she was doing in school and how her piano lessons were going.

    I was feeling ill one day, left work early and drove myself home. After a short hospital stay I returned to work. Jeff scolded me when he found out what had happened, and told me if I ever felt ill again to call him.

    Jeff stayed in touch even after I retired from AT&T.

    I will always remember his kind words, warm smile and sense of humor.

    Goodbye my friend!

  58. Francine Gallo-Mure said,

    07.18.12 at 4:44 am

    To Susan, Andy, Bruce, and your families

    My heartfelt condolences for your loss.

    I hope Jeff will rest in peace knowing he was loved but could not find it in his heart to extend that love to his siblings.

  59. Robert Guthrie said,

    07.18.12 at 5:32 am

    Dear Postman Family, It is indeed a sad day to read about the pasing of Jeff Postman. I first met Jeff when he worked with my grandmother, Florence Bates, at the SNET (not calling AT& T sorry) building on george street in New Haven. Over the years Jeff was a true friend and always very kind. Although I did not see Jeff often anytime we did run into each other we picked right up where we left off. I will remember his warmth, his love for swimming and many cross harbor swims. On behalf of the Guthrie Family, we offer our condolences, he will be missed by many

  60. Deana (Dean Goodwyn) said,

    07.18.12 at 11:39 am

    These hallways at 555 LongWharf Drive, 3rd floor will not be the same without Jeff. I always think of you when I use the microwave in the kitchen. You would always say don’t stand too close. I’ll miss your “fast burning calories” walk. I once told you I didn’t like my name Dean and you said what would you like to be called? And, I said maybe Deana and ever since you would call me Deana. You would put EVERYONE else first and that’s a great thing I’ve learned from you and my God. So, God bless you Jeff and Bruce. We need more great people in the world like the two of you.

  61. Anita Bellmore said,

    07.18.12 at 11:39 am

    It was a blessing to know this gentle man. He was one of the most caring and compassionate people I have ever known. He always remembered my mom even long after her retirement from SNET. I will hold him and his loved ones in my thoughts and prayers.

  62. Chuck Randall said,

    07.18.12 at 11:52 am

    Summer vacations on Natucket (with Jeff’s dinner of hot dogs), lazy days of sailing, and dinner in Madison with two special men. Jeff’s humor and kindness will always be remembered. We’ll miss his laugh and I know of no one who was as kind and gentle.

  63. Mike n Kate said,

    07.18.12 at 1:29 pm

    I can hardly find the words for how much we will miss Jeffrey–popping up at the front door with some goodie you baked, or listening to the latest wacky joke, or being reminded to be kind in all things. He was a gentle soul with a heart of a warrior, especially these last few months. Your devotion has been unmatched, Bruce, and we treasure you both as neighbors and close friends. We will always be keeping an eye out for that bright orange hat strolling around the block.
    Kate n Mike

  64. Carol Testa said,

    07.18.12 at 2:05 pm

    Bruce and family:
    How can one say how sorry we are to have lost such a good person. I quess Grace and Alan wanted him to be with them. Jeff was one in a million and a very dear friend. I will truly miss him. He is now at peace – no more pain and suffering. We all have a guardian angel to watch over us.
    Goodbye my dear friend.

  65. Jessie Pierpont said,

    07.18.12 at 4:27 pm

    Dear Bruce and family,

    The Pierpont familiy will always remember the fun trips up to Maine. Kayaking, swimming and cooking an exhausting number of dishes for one family. :) He was such a great person and will always be remembered. I (along with my family) are honored to have such an special individual walk into our lives. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. He will be for ever in our hearts.
    Jessie and Pierpont clan

  66. Kathy Stone said,

    07.18.12 at 5:41 pm

    My deepest sympathies to you. I’ve known Jeff through the years at SNET/SBC/ATT, most recently at Long Wharf. It was always a pleasure to see him and chat for a few minutes to catch-up. He was a gentle man. May he rest well and be at peace.
    I hope your happy memories and your Framily will help you through this sad time.

  67. Janet Riesman said,

    07.19.12 at 10:12 am

    The outpouring of love at Jeffrey’s service yesterday was a fitting and moving tribute to how many, far and wide, were touched by the kindness and compassion of this wonderful man. The devotion of Bruce and Jeff for each other was heartwarming and inspiring for all who were fortunate enough to attend. Thank you for gracing our lives, Jeffrey, in death even as in life. We will miss you. Our prayers are with Bruce as he adjusts to his next voyage in life without you as his companion. We love you both.

  68. Sue Stacey said,

    07.19.12 at 1:27 pm

    Just remembering all the conversations we had about life, family and various other topics, makes me smile.

    I met Jeff back in the late 70’s working at SNET. Such a wonderful man, and if you believe in angels, God pick a special one to come to heaven.

    Until we meet again, Jeff rest in peace.

  69. Jim and Deb Heisley said,

    07.19.12 at 4:02 pm

    We are remembering our days at Wittenberg with “Postman”. What a true friend he was and although we all worked very hard we had so much fun together. Then there was our wedding when Jeff danced with Jim’s mother and told her she was “funky” – she fell in love with him on the spot! After graduation we had a few opportunities to visit with Jeff – he came to Colorado to see us and we met him in Mystic. In between we kept in touch by writing. Unfortunately we never had the opportunity to meet Bruce but we can tell from his emails that he was a loving and caring partner to Jeff. Thanks Bruce for taking such good care of our dear “Postman” – we loved him and will miss him. If we are ever in your area we will certainly look you up – would love to meet you!

    Jim and Deb (Smitty) Heisley

  70. Susan Dillman said,

    07.19.12 at 5:56 pm

    I came away from Jeff’s memorial service in awe. It was so very meaningful; a very special tribute to a very special man. The message from Jeff was incredibly beautiful, inspirational and thought provoking– testament to the amazing person Jeff was and the loving and devoted relationship he and Bruce shared. Jeff left all of us with priceless gift… his message was filled with valuable life lessons that we all can learn from. Bruce, I hope you will publish Jeff’s beautiful message in a FRamily email so those who were not able to attend the memorial can also hear Jeff’s inspirational words.
    My heartfelt condolences to Bruce and the other special people in Jeff’s life.

    Susan Dillman

  71. Susan McGrath said,

    07.21.12 at 1:41 pm

    Jeff was one of the most unique and upbeat people I have ever met. Whenever I would run into him (at SNET), he would make me feel as if he had been waiting all day to see me. I will remember him very fondly and offer my condolences to all of the special people in his life.

  72. Jim Amodio said,

    07.21.12 at 7:40 pm

    Dear Bruce,

    So sorry to hear of your recent loss. Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and hope you are well.

    Your old friend forever, Jimmy Amodio

  73. Dawn Alex said,

    07.23.12 at 5:21 pm

    Bruce and family,

    I am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you! I have known and worked with Jeff at Long Wharf for many years. Jeff ALWAYS had nothing but nice words for me and it always made me smile! He was the kindest person with the warmest heart! I will miss him very much! He is an angel!

    Dawn Alex

  74. sandy peccerillo said,

    07.24.12 at 4:39 am

    jeff, i only wish i could have given you one last hug. i never knew anyone like you and can’t imagine that i ever will. you were greatly loved and will be sorely missed.
    with much sadness,
    sandy peccerillo

  75. Julie and Kevin Condrin said,

    07.25.12 at 12:09 pm

    Dear Bruce,

    My words will pale in comparison to those written by others. But I echo much what has been said. Jeff left love were ever he went, and he left that with us. We are both so saddened by the loss of Jeff.

    But Bruce, we are also so saddened for the loss you’re suffering. Our prayers are that the love you shared and the memories you made with Jeff will comfort you and bring you immense joy always.

    Kevin and I are thankful we had the opportunity to know Jeff and receive his imprint of love on our hearts.

    Thinking of you with love, and sending you hugs of comfort.

    Kevin and Julie Condrin
    (ACT II Thrift Shop)

  76. Nancy Specht said,

    07.25.12 at 2:31 pm

    Dear Bruce and Family,

    I am very sorry for your loss. I worked with Jeffrey in Regulatory in New Haven and in Network Marketing in Meriden. He was definitely one of a kind–sweet, funny, smart, and conscientious. One of his self-deprecating stories that I will always remember concerned his cooking skills. He was making mashed potatoes for the first time. After he boiled the potatoes and poured out the water there were no potatoes! He had cut up the potatoes too small and they had dissolved while boiling. He had us laughing all the time with stories like that.

    My deepest condolences,

    Nancy Specht