Carol Messer

Carol 2013Carol Messer, 89, passed peacefully into eternal life on June 23, 2013 due to natural causes. Born on October 25, 1923 in Brooklyn, NY, Carol attended New York University and became a buyer for a regional clothing store chain. She was a career woman for a few years until she met, fell instantly in love with and married Ed Messer. They moved to New Haven and had a wonderful marriage for 64 years until Ed’s passing in 2010. A dedicated and loving wife, mother, daughter, grandmother and friend, Carol was involved in civic, social, and charitable organizations in Connecticut and Florida. (Yes, they were snowbirds.) Those who knew Carol know that the party never stopped. She loved people, tennis, dancing, theater, entertaining, and finishing the leftovers. Her kindness, enthusiasm, and love of life will be missed very much. Toward the end of her life, Carol lived with her daughter, Jane, a registered nurse, in Woodbridge, just around the corner from where she and Ed raised their family. Carol is survived by her daughters Jane Messer and Karen Messer, son-in-law Bill Watters, and five grandchildren: Robert, Suzanne and Marisa Messer; and Michael and David Watters. Carol’s family extends their sincere gratitude to all who helped made Carol and Ed’s life so wonderful.

Funeral services at Weller Funeral Home, 493 Whitney Ave., New Haven, Tuesday afternoon at 1:30. The interment will be in the United Israel Society Cemetery, Jewell St., New Haven.  A private period of mourning will be observed.


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  1. Gerri Frankel said,

    06.23.13 at 6:11 pm

    I am sorry to read this news but I am smiling, remembering the many happy interactions with Eddie and Carol, mostly through tennis which we shared. I have it on good authority that my parents have been seeking a celestial mixed doubles game….and now they will have it! Hugs,

  2. Irma and Harold Batt said,

    06.24.13 at 1:03 am

    Dear Messer family, Reading the lovely obituary brought back a flood of memories to us.Did you know that Ed taught me to play pingpong and your mother helped teach me to dance?When Carol and Ed moved upstairs from my parents on the Boulevard in the late 1940’s, we were able spend more time together as couples.Irma and Carol had many card games together, but I was too clumsy to play tennis with Ed.However, we had many parties,etc together,shared simchas, and kept in touch after we moved to Florida. We will miss them.

  3. Lynne Drazen said,

    06.24.13 at 2:06 am

    Dear Jane and Karen,
    I’m so sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing. Her great smile and the warmth I felt as a teenager when sleeping at your home always made me feel comfortable. Our parent’s shared many great times dancing at Oaklane and socializing. They were special times. Your Mom was a wonderful lady and she will be missed.
    Much love,

  4. Andrea Kaye said,

    06.24.13 at 2:24 pm

    Dear Karen and Jane,
    My thoughts are with you…I have nothing but great memories of both your parents and the times I spent eating and sleeping over your house. We had so much fun and many laughs. Your mom was always welcoming and cheerful. May her memories be a blessing.

  5. Michele Brownstein said,

    06.24.13 at 11:40 pm

    Dear Jane and Karen,
    My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. I remember your mother’s warmth and energy. Hopefully, your wonderful memories wil make this time a little easier.
    Shelly (Herman) Brownstein

  6. Nancy & Jack Talsky said,

    06.25.13 at 1:25 am

    Dear Jane, Karen and family, We are saddened to learn of the passing of your dearest mother, Carol. I got to know her well when I was invited into her Mah Jong game by my sister, Barbara Tomsky. We were often Included by your parents to “break fast” and other celebrations at their home.They were indeed a hospitable. fun and gracious couple. Nancy & Jack Talsky

  7. Rosemari Clogher said,

    06.25.13 at 3:40 am

    Dear Jane,
    It was with much sadness that I read of the passing of your beloved mother this evening. She was a caring, vibrant woman who embraced life with such enthusiasm. I remember how much she loved you, Karen and all her be-
    loved grandchildren. She was so proud of all of you.
    Paul and I extend our deepest sympathy. We will keep all of you in our thoughts and prayers. I will be in touch.
    Rosemari & Paul Clogher

  8. ELLY&HERB schneiderman said,

    06.25.13 at 1:32 pm

    we spent many an evening at dinner with mom and dad here in florida and thoroughly enjoyed every one. they were a great pleasure to be with. we send our deepest condolences and sympathies……
    ELLY & HERB Schneiderman.

  9. Elaine & Stanley Goldman said,

    06.25.13 at 9:44 pm

    Dear Jane, Karen & Messer family.

    As you know, your Mom and Dad were not only our neighbors but also, our best friends for many, many years. Although we haven’t been in touch for a few years, we still felt very close to the Messer family, and hold all of the Messer’s in our fondest thoughts. All the wonderful times we shared together will always be remembered as among the best years of our life.


    Elaine and Stanley Goldman

  10. Bert and Martha Weisbart said,

    06.27.13 at 8:13 pm

    Dear Jane, Karen and family,

    We would have had no photos of our daughter’s Bat Mitzvah if it hadn’t been for Ed. And our priceless memories of tennis mixed doubles at Oak Lane are interwoven with memories of Carol and Ed….to this day, when on a court and I or someone else yells, ‘yours,” it is Carol’s face that pops into my consciousness. What a caring woman….always with a smile and a thoughtful word…and so proud of her family. We send you our loving condolences. But, it must be of some comfort to know that the wonderful team of Carol and Ed Messer are united again.

    Bert and Martha Weisbart